Sunday, July 24, 2011

You Can Do Anything

Katherine, the last couple of weeks just zoomed by. So much to write about and after a beautiful Okanagan weekend it’s evening and while daddy is playing with you, I have time to write.

You are able to sit up now – you started sitting on your own just a couple days after you turned six months. Wobbly at first (and falling over more times than I can count), you were determined. Every day, you became a bit more stable. At first, playing while sitting was too much, sitting and balancing took all your concentration. Now, you are sitting confidently and playing with your toys (or crumpling up paper if it’s within your reach). This is a big milestone and we are so proud of you!

We went on our first vacation – daddy, you and I drove to Vancouver for some wonderful days of sightseeing, visiting with family and just hanging out and having fun. We experienced lots of “firsts” on this trip… your first time at a hotel, sleeping away from home, your first time in a swimming pool and of course your first time on the public transport system, skytrain and bus. Now, that was an interesting experience, and a first for your daddy and me. The really cool part about it wasn’t so much the logistics of getting on and off with a stroller (we had a couple of things to learn about that), but it was how you chose to behave. Being in a big city, people are typically not as open to connect - when we go for our evening strolls in the residential areas in Kelowna, people greet us as we walk by them; but in downtown in Vancouver on public transit, people tend to be minding their own business…. or do they? You were determined to connect with people in the city and on the skytrain and before long you had perfect strangers giggling at you, very serious looking businessmen making funny faces at you in an attempt to make you laugh and many more individuals quietly smiling as you chose to connect with them for a brief moment. It really made me think; sharing a moment of eye contact or a quiet smile with a stranger is all we need to make a connection that brightens our day. You did this instinctively – and because nobody ever taught you that you can’t.

You are teaching me that we don’t know all we can do unless we try. Often we don’t try because there is a chance that we could fail. That fear of failure can hold us back from learning new skills, making new friends and being all we can be. No matter how many times you fell over when you were learning to sit, no matter how many times that made you cry, and no matter how frustrated you were in the moment, giving up clearly never crossed your mind. My wish for you (and everyone) is that we never give up on anything that’s important to us in life and remember we can do anything, if only we try.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Laughs, Picnics and Love

Katherine, you are 6 months today. What a journey it has been so far – and much more to come… I can’t wait! Life is full of laughs, surprising moments and so much love; every day brings something new.

A couple of days ago your daddy, you and I walked to the beach at the Okanagan Lake in the evening (ok, ok, daddy and I walked and you were comfortably pushed in your stroller). I had packed us a picnic for dinner and we sat down by the lake enjoying a casual meal and great family time. After dinner I took you down to the water and you watched the waves coming in; I could tell you were both fascinated and calmed by the gentle waves breaking at the shore. I carefully stood you on your feet and held you as your toes touched the sand and the little waves washed over your feet, the sun started setting behind the mountains. Giggling and laughing we stood in the water – it was one of those “perfect moments”.

Tonight I had a hard time letting you go to sleep – during our playtime just before bed I couldn’t stop thinking about how amazing the last 6 months have been and how our lives have changed so much. More hectic? Sure. More challenging to balance my days? Sure. But above all, so much more perfect!

Throughout the evening tonight we’ve had some funny laughing “conversations”. As soon as I laughed, you responded with this giggling belly laugh until you stopped and looked at me, waiting for me to laugh again, then it was your turn again and so on. This went on until we both stopped, looked at each other with serious expressions and burst back into more laughter and giggling.

You are teaching me that when life gets challenging – and it does – taking time to laugh, taking time to go for a walk on the beach is making the day much happier and much less stressful. When things go wrong for you – and they do, you will react (and yes, in your case that usually means crying at the highest voice volume possible). But then it’s time to move on, get a hug, and look forward again with a new smile and fresh energy. Thank you for reminding me of that every day. I love you always and forever.